We ‘forgot that we knew, and that we could’
In this phase, many of us get confused and mostly frustrated. This happens because of two things: old habits are stronger, and/or we need to practice the new knowledge even more. Therefore, we ‘forget’ that we already knew what we had just learned. We can also call this ‘knowing in theory.’
The word ‘we forget’ is used in quotes since this forgetting can be a conscious or unconscious type of forgetting for people. This forgetfulness can confuse us and even frustrate us if it is not perceived at some point during the learning phases.
Briefly, the two leading causes of NOT applying or achieving what you have learned are:
- Old habits are stronger. The new thing we have studied or learned often does not work for us, or we cannot keep it applied in the short, medium, or long term. For example, when we want to exercise regularly, stop sugar or junk food addictions, improve our personal attitude, etc. This is because we have internal processes, unconsciously, that are causing us resistance to what we consciously intend or desire. Examples of those internal processes that are tripping us up or causing this conflict are emotional wounds and attachments, old or obsolete beliefs in our present, energy obstructions, and traumas, among others.
- The new knowledge needs to be practiced even more. This cause may be combined with the first, or not necessarily. That is, if you have already worked, or are working on harmonizing the issue of old habits and internal processes, and you still cannot do what you want, it is most likely just a matter of maintaining the new practice for longer (days). This can be a significant factor in not achieving the goal since many people tend to ‘throw the towel’ prematurely. This predisposition to give up before the necessary period can lead to forgetting what was learned for future occasions.
Although we have described the two causes separately, it is more common that they are intertwined with each other. There is a hole or vicious cycle between these two causes that, if not noted, will likely trap the person in question in confusion and frustration.
Realizing and working individually on these two causes will help to overcome this ‘forgetting’ dilemma.
Questions to explore:
Have you already identified which cause you could be mostly stuck on?
Have you come to see yourself in the vicious hole of both?
Have you already asked for or received help to advance from this phase?
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